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Thursday, 16 July 2009

  • He's Just Not that Into Me

    A few months ago, I ended up spending time with an acquaintance of about three years and discovering that we had more in common than I ever could have imagined.  He loves to cook, is an "accommodating" vegetarian, speaks conversational Spanish, and is great with kids, all things that I'm looking for in a significant other.  His faith is clearly important to him and academically he's very strong - I could tell that if we spent more time together, we'd have many idea-based conversations.  He was even interested in my dreams to work on an urban farm.  I'd invited him over for dinner with the roommie and myself, and he ended up staying until around 11 pm, saying on his way out that he wished we been friends sooner (we both just graduated).  Everything was go.

    Then I saw him at a couple parties for graduating seniors.  He was friendly, cordial, but not overly warm.  I know by now how to read men, and he wasn't at all interested in me.  Maybe I read him wrong originally or maybe something changed, but there clearly wasn't any point in looking for a relationship with him, no matter how perfect I think he is.  He's just not that into me.  And yet I find myself wondering what went wrong or if anything will change.

    Have you ever fallen for someone who's clearly not that into you?  What did you do?

Sunday, 05 July 2009

  • -Centrism

    I'll fight Eurocentrism until the day I die (if I ever forget, please slap me upside the head until I remember).
    I'll fight racism, sexism, ethnocentrism, ageism, and a lot of other -isms.

    I don't believe that Whites are better than any other cultural group (even if this assumption benefits me, since I'm White and have seen the power of White privilege).  I don't even really believe in the construct of race.  I don't believe that men are better than women (which is not to say that I believe they are the same).  I also don't believe that the amount of money one has makes one a better or worse person.

    One -ism I don't believe to be unreasonable is anthropocentrism.  Anthropocentrism is a basic belief that humans come first in the hierarchy of living things and that they are more important than other species.

    This has come up for me because I'm reading a dissertation about urban life with livestock (related to the goat farm project), and while I find the research methods to be satisfactory and the general findings to be consistent with what I know about urban life, I can't accept the author's underlying assumption that people who do not consider their livestock at least as important as a pet, or preferably as much a part of the family as a child, are not living at the highest moral level.  (She hasn't said this overtly, but I feel the weight of her judgment staring up at me from the page.)

    Of course, I believe in protecting endangered species, in treating animals well, in using resources wisely.  But I also believe that priorities are necessary, and I've seen too many children without childhoods to put an animal before them, or even equal to them.  If killing an animal helps students at an inner city school to understand how they're part of the food web, I'm ok with that.  If keeping chickens for their eggs makes a profit to continue running a worthwhile program, fine by me.  If not taking a rabbit to the vet makes it possible to pay the electric bill, go ahead.

    Maybe I'm unenlightened . . . but I'm not ignorant.  I'd heard the arguments before, seen the pictures, met the activists.  I just don't buy it.  But I'd love to hear your thoughts.

Sunday, 28 June 2009

  • 22

    I turned 22 last week, and I have to say, it feels a little weird.  To me, 22 is the cut-off for being a youth - 21 is still in college, has just become "legal," and it has a sort of glow to it.  22 is a college graduate.  22 is a young professional.  22 has a job, or is in grad school.  22 can reasonably get married (although 24 is more expected on that one).  22 is responsible, independent, a "real person."

    Most people think that turning 21 changes things, and I guess it does, but I don't think I felt different the way I have with 22.  I guess we'll see where the year takes me.

Monday, 08 June 2009

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    • State: Michigan
    • Metro: Lansing
    • Birthday: 6/21/1987
    • Gender: Female
    • Member Since: 8/13/2005

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